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Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

Q: Why does my four-year-old get angry at me and hit me after my husband and I go away for the weekend?  He is left in very good hands with my parents, who love him very much.

A: A child at this age feels that he is the center of the universe and that he controls the world.  When you disappear, he can’t understand what happened.  On one level, he feels abandoned and helpless.  On another level, he is angry.  Your child is expressing his anger.  Kids will usually ignore a parent when they return, be oppositional or even – as in your case – get physical.  But this behavior soon disappears.  The best way to handle it is to be respectful of his feelings.  Let him blow off all the steam he needs to.  Within 24 to 36 hours things will be back to normal.

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  1. Antoinette Smith January 30th, 2013

    I need help with where to find help for me and my granddaughter. Money is tight and I need to get my granddaughter away from the enviroment that she is in, for her mental well being. My daughter wants to pop in-out of her life when she wants, and this is creating an inbalanced life style. I need help! She thinks this is the teen mom show, what to do?

    • FGP April 8th, 2013

      Try the AARP Grandparenting Center.
      They have the names of groups for you to contact.


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